Nor rain, nor work, nor pandemic can stop a sexy text!
In a long distant relationship? Do you want to try something new, but not sure how to tell your partner? Looking for a new way to spice up your relationship? Try sexting!
Seriously, it’s a thrilling and great way to have fun with your partner and start your foreplay before you day has ended!
Tried and failed? Never give up! You can only get better and here’s how to sext like a pro.
What is sexting?
Sexting is talking naughty with your partner through a text! It’s creating an erotic story with your partner, it’s telling them how you want them, where you want them and how it makes you feel just thinking about it.
Why should I sext?
Because it is an excellent way to communicate to your partner what you want to try or what you want to do or even what you enjoy more of in bed!
Talking about sex with your partner can be hard at times, you can use sexting as a way to tell them what you want.
The all day arousal just leaves you aching for the day to end so you can jump on your partner.
Do I have to send nudes?
Nope, not at all! Nudes aren’t necessary to make a sexting dream come true. You can describe what you’re wearing, you don’t have to show if you don’t want to.
Something like ‘I love the way it feels when you run your hand up my thighs over my thigh high stocks, the tease of you just making me ache for more.’
Sexting is all about creating an erotic story with your partner, where you’re both the main characters.
What’s so special about sexting? Isn’t wanting my partner enough?
Of course wanting your partner matters, but telling them and showing them are two different things. While I’m sure you would prefer showing, telling them is a fun way to build up to the showing them.
And honestly, if I want to try something with a partner, I like to use sexting. It’s a great way to see how open they are to trying something new… like public sex, dressing up or anal.
Sexting opens up the conversation making it easier to discuss the topic. And sometimes sexting is enough to fulfill that fantasy of having sex in their office, just the thought of it being a possibility and how it can happen is exciting.
3 Rules To Sexting
- Have confidence! This is crucial, you aren’t face to face with them, so it should be easier for you to write how you want to take your partner.
- Don’t break the scene, unless necessary. People are busy, they can’t always respond right away. It’s better to wait for a response than break the scene wondering where they are or what they’re doing. If you are eager for a response, send a follow up text keeping it with the scene. IE. I’m so hard/wet for you.
- Be detailed! Details matter, you want to say things like ‘slipping my one hand on your shaft and one on your balls, squeezing lightly as I swallow your head.’ And other things ‘Kneeling in front of you, lightly biting my way up your thighs as you fall to the couch, spreading your legs, open eager and ready for my tongue.’
Creating The Scene
Decide the scene you want to create with your partner and let it build. Start with something simple, here’s an example ‘I’m so turned on… I want to slip into your office, shut your door and get naughty with you.” You can also be more direct, “I need you so bad, the things I would do if I was there… Just slip these black lace panties off and walk over behind your desk.”
Wait for a response, your partner may take a moment to respond. If they don’t respond within the amount of time you want, continue creating the scene, send another text. You’ve most likely taken your partner by surprise, it’s okay, you’re opening up a new faucet of your sex life.
Don’t let the delayed response make you afraid of continuing on. Sometimes people are busy, don’t know how to respond or are seeing if you’ll send more. It’s okay if your partner doesn’t respond right away.
You’re partner has responded, their either wondering what you’re doing or their going with it here’s what to do for both situations:
Your partner is wondering what you’re doing and has asked. It’s okay, tell them you’re turned on and want to have a little fun and sext with them. Tell them you just want to enjoy it and have some fun.
They’ve responded back to you with something kinky! Woohoo! Success! Maybe they’ve thrown something completely random at you, maybe they’ve taken the scene to a completely different place. Go with it! Don’t worry about taking control of the scene but really working enjoy the scene.
Now you’re getting into the thick of it, but what do you describe?
Describe the location in the beginning, if you change places then say so, it’s your world so it can be wherever! An office, an apartment, a bar, in the chair, in the tub, on couch, in a sex dungeon on the St Andrews Cross!
Describe where your hands go on each other, what it feels like when they touch you there and kiss you here… Tell them where you want their body on yours, let them know how you like it.
Don’t be afraid to say ‘I moan as you thrust inside me’, its okay to moan and let them know.
It’s ok to be filled with desire, wet and eager, aching to wrap your mouth around them, or bite your lip as they kiss you below the belt. Grind on their jeans, enjoying the dry humping as your nipples harden.
Don’t be afraid of details, push them against the door as you take their mouth, your hands running frantically up and down them.
Build your erotic story with your partner, don’t leave out positions, thrusting, orgasms, moans, kisses… let your imagination run wild.
You don’t know what to say, you’re having a brain fart. You’re in the middle of it and really digging it and don’t want to lose momentum but you need a moment! Here are some filler phrases you can use and you can always come up with you’re own of course!
- Oh God Yes!!!
- Mmm yes, I want you so badly!
- Don’t stop! Tell me more!!
- You make my moan/scream so loud.
- I’m so turned on for you.
- This is so hot, I love it!
- Harder, faster, don’t stop!
- Makin me beg for it baby.
Now I know all of these phrases sound simple however, they keep the mood going and give you a moment to figure out what you want to say next. You could even be waiting for your partner to tell you more so you can go off that and that’s okay!
Person 1: I was just thinking about you… I’m so turned on, I’m wearing my blue pencil skirt and button up white blouse and all I can think about is your hands sliding up my thighs under my skirt.
Person 2: Oh really? (see this isn’t always a great response however it’s an opportunity and you can take it!)
Person 1: Oh yes, your fingers slipping inside me, as you get on your knees in front of me pulling my desk chair so you have me right where you want me. Your mouth making its way up my thighs as you push up my skirt, revealing me just before you slip your tongue between my thighs.
Person 2: Fucking you with tongue til you cum, my cock heavy and aching ready for you. Standing up unzipping my pants, letting the weight of my cock fall into your hands, using your office chair to slide your mouth onto my hard cock.
Person 1: Muffing my moans as you hit the back of my throat, my nipples hard, aching to be touched… Just before you reach the edge, you wipe everything off my desk and lift me on top, ripping open my shirt before thrusting balls deep inside me.
See something like the above is an example of how you want to be. Letting them know that you want them and how. It doesn’t have to be like that exactly though, let it be your own story of what you want.
Person 2, could have responded differently, helping create the fantasy, however I wanted just a short example and how to defeat what seems like a lackadaisical response.
These are all the steps to learning to sext.
Don’t feel guilty for being turned on by your partner, and don’t feel guilty for not actually touching yourself during the sext scene.
You’re creating a sex story with your partner, enjoy it, hear what their saying they enjoy from you and relish in it.
You’re both taking pleasure from one another, though its not physical touching, it can still turn you on. And over everything… have fun!
Always Uncensor Your Pleasure
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